THIS IS FROM KASHMIR TIMES -
Negative impact in Valley of Dr Faesal’s positive success story
SRINAGAR, May 12: The very positive success story of Dr Faesal Shah, who recently topped the civil services examinations, has started showing its negative effects on Kashmir youth due to the wrong thinking of large number of parents.
Psychiatrists fear that more pressure would be mounted now by the parents on their children to succeed like Dr Faesal. Subsequently, the children and youth would not be able to cope up with pressure and they can land into psychological and psychiatric problems.
While Dr Faesal’s success with top rank in the civil services examinations was celebrated on a large scale in the state, the youth have started complaining about their parents comparing them with the topper and pressurising them to succeed in the same way as he did.
As per reports the arguments and counter arguments have led to brawls in some of the families.
Some school and college going youths are complaining of harassment they are receiving at the hands of their parents, ever since the news of Dr. Faesal and others faring well in IAS examinations poured into their homes.
And the repercussion of this non-stop parent nagging sessions has led to a lot of mental exertion for their children.
“We are certainly proud at what the young men from our state achieved at the national level. However, it is ironical, how our parents instead of encouraging us to do something similar, are rather pointing out our failures, which is discouraging,” said Muzamil Khan, an engineering aspirant.
This interesting development has become a common feature in Kashmiri homes these days, if a group of girl students at Government College of women, MA Road, Srinagar are to be believed.
Says Numaana, a science student, “Last year, I could not crack my medical entrance examinations because I was unwell. My parents did not say anything then. After a year, they brought back the topic, when this news of Dr. Faesal topping the examinations came in. They taunted me and my siblings that we would never be able to achieve any such thing, because we do not work hard. “
Valley based psychiatrists believe that due to this pessimistic approach of parents towards their children, the youths would not be able to learn positive lessons from this big feat.
Explains Dr. Mushtaq Margoob, a leading psychiatrist, “We have seen over and again, how in Kashmir and even elsewhere, parents are hell-bent on seeing their children achieve something extraordinary. We simply undermine the talent, which might be unique to each kid, and go on moulding his interests according to our choices.”
Experts see the conventional parental practice of inducing competition in their children through comparisons, teasing and jealousy as the major drawbacks, which lead to their children being mentally exhausted.
There is also a growing concern, among the experts that such conflicts between parents and their children would also disturb the homely congenial atmosphere and lead to further isolation of children.
Dr. Margoob reasons, “Parents only focus on the physical achievements made by their children. They tend to ignore the subdued talents in their children. Dr. Faesal, and other IAS qualifiers are surely role models for the young generation. However, it does not mean that only cracking IAS and other such examinations would mean a successful career for our children.”
Experts opine that a fabulous achievement like that of Dr. Faesal should be looked at with a positive frame of mind and not with the stereotype of following a particular model.
“This would block the mental horizons of children. The idea of exploration and experimentation should always be open to young minds. They are the most diligent ones. And if made to work in their particular areas of interest, many more Dr. Faesals would arise from this land,” added Dr. Margoob.
Negative impact in Valley of Dr Faesal’s positive success story
SRINAGAR, May 12: The very positive success story of Dr Faesal Shah, who recently topped the civil services examinations, has started showing its negative effects on Kashmir youth due to the wrong thinking of large number of parents.
Psychiatrists fear that more pressure would be mounted now by the parents on their children to succeed like Dr Faesal. Subsequently, the children and youth would not be able to cope up with pressure and they can land into psychological and psychiatric problems.
While Dr Faesal’s success with top rank in the civil services examinations was celebrated on a large scale in the state, the youth have started complaining about their parents comparing them with the topper and pressurising them to succeed in the same way as he did.
As per reports the arguments and counter arguments have led to brawls in some of the families.
Some school and college going youths are complaining of harassment they are receiving at the hands of their parents, ever since the news of Dr. Faesal and others faring well in IAS examinations poured into their homes.
And the repercussion of this non-stop parent nagging sessions has led to a lot of mental exertion for their children.
“We are certainly proud at what the young men from our state achieved at the national level. However, it is ironical, how our parents instead of encouraging us to do something similar, are rather pointing out our failures, which is discouraging,” said Muzamil Khan, an engineering aspirant.
This interesting development has become a common feature in Kashmiri homes these days, if a group of girl students at Government College of women, MA Road, Srinagar are to be believed.
Says Numaana, a science student, “Last year, I could not crack my medical entrance examinations because I was unwell. My parents did not say anything then. After a year, they brought back the topic, when this news of Dr. Faesal topping the examinations came in. They taunted me and my siblings that we would never be able to achieve any such thing, because we do not work hard. “
Valley based psychiatrists believe that due to this pessimistic approach of parents towards their children, the youths would not be able to learn positive lessons from this big feat.
Explains Dr. Mushtaq Margoob, a leading psychiatrist, “We have seen over and again, how in Kashmir and even elsewhere, parents are hell-bent on seeing their children achieve something extraordinary. We simply undermine the talent, which might be unique to each kid, and go on moulding his interests according to our choices.”
Experts see the conventional parental practice of inducing competition in their children through comparisons, teasing and jealousy as the major drawbacks, which lead to their children being mentally exhausted.
There is also a growing concern, among the experts that such conflicts between parents and their children would also disturb the homely congenial atmosphere and lead to further isolation of children.
Dr. Margoob reasons, “Parents only focus on the physical achievements made by their children. They tend to ignore the subdued talents in their children. Dr. Faesal, and other IAS qualifiers are surely role models for the young generation. However, it does not mean that only cracking IAS and other such examinations would mean a successful career for our children.”
Experts opine that a fabulous achievement like that of Dr. Faesal should be looked at with a positive frame of mind and not with the stereotype of following a particular model.
“This would block the mental horizons of children. The idea of exploration and experimentation should always be open to young minds. They are the most diligent ones. And if made to work in their particular areas of interest, many more Dr. Faesals would arise from this land,” added Dr. Margoob.
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